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The Seven Fundamentals of the Master Secret:
Happiness is the Secret.
by Eldon Taylor
What is success? Have you ever wondered why it is that
for some, everything works, and for others, nothing works? Why is it that
two people can have essentially the same opportunities, but one person
be happy and the other one miserable? Is it not, therefore, happiness
that constitutes the true meaning of success?
Success is happiness! Truly successful people are happy,
and when you are happy and whole in yourself, all good things follow.
Where then do happiness and wholeness come from? How does a person who
experiences frustrations in life become whole? Can personal wholeness
provide happiness, improve self-esteem, and lead to riches and fame, peace
balance and harmony? Can relationships with family, friends and associates
be improved because one person assumes the responsibility to be personally
whole, takes the initiative to exude joy and happiness, seizes the opportunity
to empower his or her own life by using the secret of the ages?
The answers to all these questions lie in the seven fundamentals
of the master secret.
The first fundamental is you - the absolutely awesome
and incredible you! Not the you of self-doubt, not the you that fears
rejection or failure, not the you that questions your abilities, but the
real you! Those other "yous" are not you. They are
synthetic yous built upon limited and false notions of who you are and
what you may become. For most of us those false notions originate as we
mature. In our very early attempts to achieve acceptance, we often
trade off our real selves. The desire to be loved is so strong
that many of us give up love or respect for ourselves in order to obtain
security. That trade-off never works, because what we are insecure
about in the first place exists within ourselves.
Happiness is a state of mind. The kingdom is within.
The real you is a higher you, a higher power that resides within you or
is available to you whenever you ask or seek. The fact is, it
is your birthright to manifest the glory of the incredible you.
You absolutely have the power and ability to experience all the bounties
of life, to experience many literal miracles in your life -- for you yourself
are a miracle, and all that you are or can ever be is a gift!
So the first fundamental is you. The power resides within you.
No one else can do it for you. Your thoughts are reflections of your expectations.
What has been sown in your subconscious mind is what
you reap. Doubt produces failure, fear yields anger, and belief
in limitation is the greatest of all self-fulfilling prophecies.
The second fundamental is that thoughts are things.
The thoughts we have reveal the beliefs we have about ourselves.
Listen to how we talk to ourselves. Is the language
from the inside reflecting optimism, or is it filled with negative and
What you expect is what you get. Science refers to this
phenomenon as the Pygmalion effect. It is a fact:
if you expect the worst, you get it. And some of us must love
it, because we keep on getting it! Oh, we may complain about it, we may
yell and scream when it happens, but what do most of us do about it? Most
of us speak and act as though there is absolutely nothing we can do about
it. After all, isn't life full of "normal" events that produce
"normal" responses? Isn't it normal to become angry for being
cut off in five o'clock traffic? Isn't it normal to become fearful when
the boss speaks harshly? Isn't it normal to be frustrated with a child's
lack of respect or self-responsibility? Isn't it normal to become stuck
or just fed up?
Such reactions may be normal, but are they appropriate or conducive
to happiness? Has anger ever produced a peaceful sense of harmony
within you? Has it ever solved a problem or led to anything other than
more anger, guilt, and feelings of being out of control? Such reactions
may be normal, but another word for normal is average,
which can be defined as the best of the worst and the worst of the best.
Neither end of this definition is the highest best of who you really are.
You are your thoughts. You manifest your thoughts, your subconscious
beliefs, in everything you experience. Do you believe you deserve
happiness, wholeness, and success? You must truly know at all levels of
your being that all good things are yours in order for them ever to be
yours. You create your own realities. Events are not pivotal points in
your life, you are the pivotal point in your life. When your thoughts
are in agreement with your desires, your desires will magically materialize.
The third fundamental is to forgive and let go. That
idea may be a bit startling at first, but think about it for a minute.
Do you consider yourself to be a victim? A victim of your circumstances?
Or are you willing to assume responsibility for who you are? There are
two ways to be tied up in the world. One is to be tied, literally, by
someone else and the other is to tie yourself, figuratively, by refusing
to let go of beliefs that limit your expression of the whole and complete
being you are. In other words, as long as you displace responsibility
by blaming someone or something for who and what you are, you remove from
yourself the power to be anything other than partial and incomplete.
All behavior is the result of choice. Sometimes our
choices are made at an unconscious or a subconscious level. For example,
we choose to avoid conflict by repressing our true feelings. Later our
true feelings become so strong that we can no longer suppress them, and
some small incident triggers an overkill response. That is a reactive
model -- we have lost control. When we assume responsibility for
every aspect of our lives, we get in touch with our deepest fears and
feelings. The power we gain over our former, reactive behavior,
provides us with the ability to respond appropriately to all stimuli.
That is a proactive model -- we are always in control.
It has been said that the highest act of consciousness is inhibition
- inhibition of animal stimulus-response conditioning. When we
accept responsibility for our every thought and action, we empower ourselves
by performing the highest act of consciousness: inhibiting the
animal stimulus-response reaction. But that means we no longer have anyone
In fact, as long as we blame, we effectively eliminate our ability
to grow, to be in control, or to experience peace, balance, and harmony.
Power to grow resides in forgiveness. Forgiving and letting
go will set us free. Forgiving everyone, including ourselves,
provides the opportunity to become more than we have been, which for many
is but a mere shadow of our real selves. And the irony of all this is
that most of us know that we are much more than we have acted out our
lives to be!
The most powerful force in the world is love. Love
cancels fear. Fear is the only obstacle that must be overcome
in order for all of our experiences to take on new dimensions of meaning
and joy. This love is not romantic love between lovers but the unconditional
love that we give our children. We are all children in some relative stage
of development, learning how to live in joy and happiness. When we truly
understand this truth, it becomes easy to forgive another of acts that
are selfish and self-centered -- and forgive ourselves, as well. "Above
all else, respect thyself," said Pythagoras. In
order to love others, we must first love ourselves. We cannot
pour from an empty container.
Contemporary studies of behavioral dysfunctions ranging from learning
difficulties to criminal activity indicate one common denominator: low
self-esteem. Low self-esteem grows out of fear of rejection --
rejection by a loved one, an employer, a stranger, anyone who might laugh
at our efforts or who would misunderstand or disapprove. On the other
hand, high self-esteem grows out of self-acceptance.
Self-acceptance is self-love. Self-esteem comes from
self-love. We cannot love anyone unless we love ourselves.
The fifth fundamental is that acceptance is mastery.
Loving unconditionally suggests accepting others as they are. Furthermore,
loving unconditionally suggests accepting yourself as a whole and complete
being on the journey of learning we call life.
Acceptance, love, and forgiveness are as necessarily interrelated
as each side of a triangle is to the triangle as a whole. Acceptance
is the natural process we knew as children. When light faded into night,
each of us accepted that this just was the way it worked, and we learned
to live accordingly. As we grew older we began to manipulate our world
by means of electricity. Some things in the world can and even should
be manipulated to our benefit -- turning the dark into a bright space
by flipping a light switch may be one of them. But there are other elements
in our environment over which we have absolutely no control, nor should
we. Attempting to change other people into what we want them to be by
manipulating them is what many of us have spent our lives doing.
The best way in which each of us can influence our environment is in
our presence of being. When we accept other people for who and
what they are, we have taken the first step toward accepting ourselves
and contributing to the improvement of any condition or situation. Krishnamurti
once stated that "you are the world." When we reflect peace
and joy from an inner level of being, the world mirrors it back to us.
When we judge, condemn, hate, lust, and so on, the world shows us these
qualities. The world is a mirror, for the principal function of the world
is to provide us the opportunity to learn.
What we resist we often become. What we like
least in another is almost always a reflection of something in ourselves.
When we love and accept ourselves, we love and accept others.
Each individual who comes into our lives is a teacher. Each has something
to contribute to our learning. We in turn have something to contribute
to their learning. When viewed from this perspective, our every transaction
with another individual transcends the limitations of manipulation.
The fifth fundamental has been called the Golden Rule. Treat
others as though they were you, and treat according to the best you there
is, and the rest just happens. What goes out is what you get back.
Just as the story in the Bible of the prodigal son teaches us that God
has already accepted and forgiven us, so this fundamental suggests that
for many of us the least of our brothers and sisters has been ourselves!
Accepting and loving ourselves provides the ability to accept and love
others, just as accepting and loving others provides the ability to accept
and love ourselves.
Martin Luther King once said, "I can never be what I ought to be
until you are what you ought to be, and you can never be what you ought
to be until I am what I ought to be." He went on to say that the
mutually related network of reality is the fabric of the human condition.
The sixth fundamental, then, is interdependence, the principle
that each of us is an aspect of the whole. Each of us invites
respect or disrespect according to what we give others, all others. Down
through the ages this concept has been given many labels, including the
popular label karma. In law it is called reciprocity. What we
sow is indeed what we reap.
Interdependence means individually assuming responsibility for
any condition that is contrary to the quality of humanness in its highest
form and then acting to produce, out of the condition or situation, balance
and harmony for all. That is not to say that we take up causes
and then shove them down someone else's throat. It is to say that we can
work in harmony through example and right action to produce an environment
that is loving and nurturing for all.
Many people operate in a codependent manner. Their method of assuming
responsibility is to manipulate others by placing blame, finding fault,
or assuming a contractual posture that goes like this: "If I do this,
will you...?" or, "If you loved me, you would..." or, "Don't
you feel sorry that I feel..." or, "You need me to...,"
and so on. Codependence is manipulating another person to provide
you with security, sensation, and power. If someone else cannot
live or function without you, then your self-worth has been validated
-- and vice versa. A codependent is a victim, a victim both of
his or her surroundings and of other people. The need to control
another person is a classic symptom of codependency. Codependency grows
out of insecurity. All insecurities are externally oriented. The codependent
sees stimuli through the lens of expectation. Expectation is a contract
that goes like this: "I will behave this way, if you behave this
way;" or, "If you behave that way, I will behave that way."
The fear of unfulfilled expectations gives rise to internal conflict.
Happiness is a state of being. It exists moment to moment
in the eternal now. If happiness doesn't exist, conflict takes its place
-- even if the conflict is only the difference between what we think we
should be experiencing and we are experiencing. In other words, when
we have what we desire, we experience joy. Furthermore, when
what we experience is unconditional, as opposed to contractual, then we
experience only joy.
Insecurity fuels fear, and fear is a very creative force.
What we fear most is therefore very often what we create as our experience.
Instead of accepting what is, we project what might be or lament what
might have been. We are responsible only for ourselves individually. We
must be whole before any event in our lives will be. Therefore, true
interdependence assumes the role of "fixing" oneself.
The seventh fundamental is the culmination of all the fundamentals
of success. That culminating principle is this: Do it now. This
is a world of action, not procrastination. For anything to change, you
must do the changing. Nothing happens until you make it happen! Only
you can do it for you.
If the world was a world of theory, then none of us would be here. Nothing
in this world stands still or waits. No action is inaction and all inaction
is action. The form and the function are the same. Live with the
awareness that God's presence exists in all!
(Note: This article was originally published in MIND BODY SPIRIT.
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